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Why do couples get divorce?

By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff

There are a host of reasons why couples get divorce. Although most couples would use the reason irreconcilable differences, this is just a general term that can refer to all kinds of problems within the marriage.

Relationships are hard as it is without the pressures of family life coming into the picture. Some people cannot cope with the stress, thus leading to a lot of fights that will ultimately damage the relationship.

Infidelity

For most divorce cases, infidelity usually lies at the root of the break-up. Of course, this not the reason that most couples seeking divorce would put into the legal document. Indiscretions destroys marriage because it destroys the very fiber of the relationship which is trust, if you can no longer trust the person that you are with to love you and not hurt you, then there is no point in continuing with the relationship.

Although there are couples who do continue with their relationship even after an infidelity, it will be hard to bring back what has already been lost. There will always be a lingering doubt and fears that will slowly eat away the foundation of the marriage. In addition to the breaking the trust between the couple, infidelities can also create so much hurt and pain, sometimes too much that being with the person is painful in itself.

Growing apart

With today’s fast-paced world, both partners often have careers of their own. Trouble starts when the schedules of their work do not coincide and they become so busy that they do not get to spend time together. This is especially true with couples, who do a lot of traveling on the side. Oftentimes, couples will initially resent the schedules that prevent them from being together. Eventually, they will come to resent each other for not being able to change their schedules. Not spending time together can make strangers of people, even if they have known each other for so long. Marriage break when they begin to grow apart and fall out of love.

Lack of commitment to the marriage

This reason can often be seen with couples who have married too early in life and they feel that they have lost their chance to have fun. Although commitment has already been given through the marriage, there is a resistant to lose the freedom that was taken away in marriage. This can either manifest itself in the form of being irresponsible with family matters, not pulling their own weights in the marriage or not

Poor communication

Fights often become hurtful when there is poor communication between two people. When one say poor communication, this does not only refer to people who never get to talk but also to couples who sometimes make matters worst by the words that they say. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, they say things that they don’t really mean.

This is why some couples undergo therapy and marriage counseling to iron out the issues that they have with each other. Therapy helps couples solve their problems with communication. This is especially true with couples, who are not the type to reveal their feelings. In the therapy, couples are “coerced” to reveal their feelings, their fears and their anger. This way, the couples can bring out everything that they are keeping to themselves and resolve them. Marriage counseling actually works in ironing out the misunderstandings and problems in the marriage.

Physical, mental and sexual abuse

There are relationships that are not worth saving. These are the kind o relationships that destroy the person instead of develop him/her. People file for divorce when their partners abuse them in some way or if they abuse the children. Some people file for their divorce when their partner refuses to give up substance abuse.

Financial issues

Money can be a really big issue when it comes to relationships. The stress of having to provide for the family especially a large family can really get to any person. Often, financial problems breed misunderstandings and fights that quickly escalate to permanent damage to the relationship. Some couples also get into trouble when insecurities set in about providing for the family. This is especially true if the woman is the breadwinner of the family.