Knowing when it is time to let go
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
Saying goodbye can be really painful but there are some things that are just meant to end. Ending a relationship, especially one that you have nurtured for so long, can be difficult. With years spent nourishing and building what you have now, couples may feel hesitant to close the door because it will mean that they have wasted all those years and all those emotions for nothing.
Still, staying in a relationship that is going nowhere will mean wasting additional time. Instead of moving on and letting yourself grow, you are stuck in an emotional vacuum that will only hold you down.
But how do you know when it’s time to call it quits and when it’s time to give it another chance?
Below are some signs that can help you in your decision.
1.A good relationship will not always make you happy but it will certainly bring out the best in you.
Relationships are not always peaches and cream. There will be arguments. There will be misunderstandings. You cannot go through a relationship without experiencing frustration and pain. Still, what is good with relationships, is that it lets you grow as a person. It brings out the best in you. For all the pains, you get something from each other. If the relationship that you are in right now do not allow you ton grow and constricts your development as a person, then it is time to call it quits.
This is especially true if the relationship only brings the worst in yourself. Examples of these kinds of relationships are those of battered women or those that are involved with people who teach them bad stuff. When you are abused in some way, whether physically, emotionally, mentally and even financially, it is time to call it quits because a person who truly cares about you will protect you and not abuse you.
2.A relationship worth saving still makes you happy NOW.
If you can still find yourself smiling when you are together and every problem seems to go away when you are with each other, chances are, you are still happy with the relationship and whatever problems there are, you can solve them when you and your partner will only work together. One must be careful though that they don’t mistake the happy feeling with happiness for the memories that you have had or the things that can be in the future. Focus on the present, on what you are feeling right now.
3.A good relationship is not a heavy burden in your heart and mind.
Remember that only you can tell just what you are feeling. Trust in your instincts. Sometimes, even if you have made your decision, it will still feel heavy and wrong inside. Heed what your soul tells you. Calling it quits is a huge decision, something that can affect the course of your life. Make sure that when you make your decision, you have thought long and hard. There is no room for impulsive decisions.
4. a good relationship will develop what you already have but will not seek to change you.
If you find yourself wanting to change your appearance, your values for your partner so that he or she can love you more, it is time to think twice and thrice. Cliché as it is, a person should never change himself or herself for someone. If change must be done, it is because the change is something that will help the person grow and develop as an individual. Change should be done so that you can yourself more and not for someone to love you more.
5. A good relationship connects you to other people and does not make you feel cut off from the rest of the world.
Feeling like you are the only people in the world when you are together is vastly different from feeling so alone in the world. If your partner caused you to have a gap with family and friends, then perhaps it is time to quit. Although you certainly should fight for your love, there are limits to fighting. Besides, you just have to wonder why your family and friends object to him.
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