REBOUND SEX: BEYOND EMOTION
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
Is your dating on a rebound right now? You could have just broken up with a turbulent relationship then here goes another sweet date. Like a roller coaster, your romance is on track in no time and you find yourself hooked with someone once again, though deep inside you are still gnawed by the despair of your last relationship. If you are just plainly “going out” for short walks, dinners, drinks and a couple of merriment, then it may simply be filling up the loneliness inside, but temporarily. Complicating it with intimacy at once may end you in a rebound sex.
Usually rebound sex happens with confusion and the impulse to get wanted once again. If the past break-up has thoroughly meant extreme rejection, there is this coping mechanism of filling up the missing space. Apparently, casual dating is great and a spark of chemistry and attraction is something that is easy to feel. If the aspect of love will be assimilated in a scientific way, that feeling of being in love is the action of the “love hormone,” which normal human beings and animals are bound.
Physiologically, it seems to emanate from the heart, when inside the body, it is the stimulus of adrenaline and the teamwork of the brain and pituitary gland. In a female, the periodic or monthly hormonal changes make her “in heat” once a month during ovulation. Though, it is quite indignant to mention the phrase “in heat” which is more applicable to the instinctive sexual urges of other animals, say cats or dogs. To say it straight, being “in heat” is being in lust. This complexity is just the biological activity of the chemicals inside the body. But in the brain, the neural sensation goes along with emotion. Now everything will not be easy at all. Emotion is the most complex impulse that draws human beings to action.
Whether a person fell in love or fell in lust, the body is undergoing a great deal of battle with reasoning, to balance this feeling inside. The effect and consequences of emotional involvement when falling in love and committing oneself is great that it involves the drive, which can affect a person’s simplest and most complex goals. Being in love transmutes a person to achieve or fail. It procreates the civilization or literally procreates it with population.
When everyone seems to be emotionally involved, all readings, advise and columns on love and relationship sound corny and it bores everyone, but a lot of people do not bother to think on how the impact of starting and ending a love relationship can make or break a person. Emotional battle is very hard to end. It is simply hard to let go of attachment. A person who easily finds a date, wants the sensation of loss be filled up by the same intensity of the past affair and may easily find oneself in a rebound sex. On the other hand, people with self-control will be very much aware that the battle is over, that there must be a need to end the past feelings first before involving in emotional attachments at once.
The question of self-control as to giving in to rebound sex does not mean a person is weak, but it could be traced in the environmental conditions of parental love. Usually people who experienced the security of a loving home during youth will more likely never cling to “one night stand” sexual involvements.
Why rebound sex must be ruled? Nothing wrong about it actually, but the consequences count most. It complicates everything because the ego is at stake, but granted that this sphere or seat of mentality is set aside, what if the woman got pregnant? Unwanted pregnancies make a very devastating civilized world. Actually, this carelessness can ruin the world in subtle ways.
Given all the extracted ideas on the complexity of emotional involvement with someone, not only rebound sex is scary, but even relating without thinking. Maturity is the outcome of understanding oneself that he or she must be a complete person that when falling in love comes along, one can give oneself fully. A person who is empty has nothing to give but bitterness. People who just dwell on satisfying lust by jumping from one rebound sex to another, is just hurting oneself.
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