When pain fades
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
One of the most important and oftentimes tragic contributions of human evolution to society is relationship. The history of human society is filled with stories of relationships that have been immortalized because of the inspiration that they give or the lesson that they leave. Wise men say that one should learn from the mistakes of the past, But aren’t they same ones that concocted the cliché “love is blind”. So when do we say that people need to learn and when do we succumb to instincts.
People in love are like combustible materials that can be ignited by a simple flicker and just as fast as they could burn the flames of love or hate can be extinguished by the howling of the wind. People enter in to a relationship for various reasons. Some have relationships because they have a longing for someone to comfort and protect them, some need another person to focus their attention on, others look for love and attention that they have been deprived of at home, and other people take it as a requirement of life. Those who enter in a relationship because they need someone that would make them feel loved are those people that want to feel secure with some one. The people that want a relationship so they could make the other person feel loved are often times neglected and taken advantage of. But no matter how hard or illogical we take their situation they will continue what they have because they feel that they are complete.
But what happens when the person that they adore leaves them behind? Do you lock yourself in your room and refuse the world? Do you distance yourself from people because you don’t want to feel hurt again? Do you pick yourself up immediately and go on a rebound? Or do you allow yourself to slowly but surely heal and go on with your life?
People in the midst or in the eye of a stormy break-up are confused most of the time. Because they have spent a great deal of time with the other person the scenarios in a new territory that is filled with people on the prowl for would be significant other is very frustrating. Even the mere sight of people on dates would remind them of what they lost and what they used to do.
People on the rebound however think that they can cure their loneliness by moving on quickly and dousing themselves in another relationship. The truth is they are just refocusing or to be more precise continuing the abrupt relationship that they once had with another person. This is quite unfair for the new person in the life of the rebounder because they go on the usual things that they do like calling them their ex’s pet names, cooking their favorite food or going to places where they used to go with their ex’s. The new person in their life would definitely feel this and would ignite something inside them because they are treated generally the same which should not be the case. People have unique traits that make them special. And to be treated in a way that they would feel that they are compared or taken as another person is unfair. Often times people on the rebound commit such unfair acts.
So what is the right way to go is to give yourself sometime to recuperate and to let yourself live your life back. There is nothing that we can accomplish by distancing ourselves from the world. People will always need the company of other people.
Give yourself sometime to heal. Give yourself some time to see the world with eyes that are not restricted or confined to a person. Live by yourself and for yourself for a while. And most importantly do not close your doors to possibilities. People will be more attracted to you if you can manifest and exude a certain level of certainty and confidence in yourself. You should go out and meet new people, explore possibilities and most importantly enjoy your freedom. You no longer have to be committed to a promise of fidelity or to be afraid that you are hurting someone’s feelings. This is the best way to let your self heal.
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