NOT A MOMENT TOO SOON
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
Romantic songs and movies are fine. They add that special tang in our daily lives that leave us with a good feeling and perhaps a little more hope that someday soon, we too will be living out a romance just as grand and sweeping and totally breathtaking as our favorite romantic Hollywood offering. That is why, when in the right moment, we feel that we have met the right person, all logic dissolves and we melt into our partner. If the same things happens to our partner and our endless love and undying connection is reciprocated by our partner, we find ourselves finally living out the most fabulous whirlwind romance worthy of any Hollywood silver screen.
Never mind that we’re too young, or not mentally and emotionally ready for marriage or whatever host of other reasons that logic dictates we should adhere to before deciding to get married—we plunge forward, get married and consequences be damned. What Hollywood heroine would be too logical anyway right.
Well, after a few months of marriage, after the misty haze of the honeymoon period begins to abate and the initially impaired sight that befalls the young and in love has started to clear, perhaps some things that used to be endearing in our partner start to become annoying. And perhaps, despite initially thinking that having each other is enough and together the world will make adjustments for you, you now start to realize that reality has a persistent way of appearing in your life no matter how much you’d want to hang on to the fantasy of your fairy tale love.
Yes unfortunately, despite a deep attraction and tumultuous emotions that are too strong to resist, eventually the tide will die down and level off and you had better have something more solid than a surge of hormones that inadvertently affected your brain into making you think with certainty that marriage was the best and only option for you both.
The problem with being too impulsive is that it takes the equal amount of effort to repair what was taken for a ride by the impulse. The tumultuous torrent of emotion, as in physics, has an equal and opposite reaction that must be faced eventually. This is why almost all marriages end in divorce.
Before deciding to get married, always keep a steady heart and mind and realize that joining together in matrimony not only affect the both of you but also the people around you. And the more solid your foundation the longer you can actually enjoy your lives together without unnecessary fear that somewhere down the road it will no longer work and your marriage will be a statistic for divorce.
One of the old school reasons that lead to getting married to soon is if the young couple find themselves pregnant. Before deciding that marriage is the best course of action in instances like these, be sure to consult with someone older and someone you can trust who can advice you on several options that are available to you without having to resort to marriage.
Marriage is something that can be good and beneficial for all concerned but without the proper foundation it’s bound to fail and result in a broken hearts, spirits and dreams. Although there is no fool proof formula to marriage, there are certain elements that help keep it alive and no amount of impulse or strong emotion will be able to substitute these.
It is better to think things through than to find yourself married too soon. While a failed marriage is not the end of the world, it’s still better to err in the side of caution. Although naturally, if you do find yourself married too soon and needing to break away, it’s not the end but just the beginning of another life cycle in your life. Hopefully the whole experience of falling in love and impulsively getting married too soon will leave you wiser and with the ability to be more discerning in the future. Whatever happens though, learn that regret is self defeating and perhaps the lesson to learn in young and impulsive love is that no matter the size of the wave, the important thing to remember in life is the way you actually ride the wave.
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