Marriage and Mediation
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
Marriage is a union of souls. This is a ceremony and a promise that the couple makes to the world and those both will love each other and remain faithful until the end.
Why then after 10 or 20 years do marriages fail? There are many reasons and the point being, the two were never meant to be in the first place. Though this is hard for anyone to accept especially if the parents have done a good job raising the children it still happens.
People caught in the middle should realize that it is not the fault of the children rather an issue between the couple that can never be resolved.
Couples can deal with this in many ways and the most common in developing countries is filing for divorce. Since this isn’t just signing a paper and calling it quits, the people involved can either go to court or hire a marriage mediator to settle the matter.
Courts are expensive and take a long time before the judge can rule on a decision. Both sides have to present arguments and when a verdict has been made, the task of separating assets and granting of custody will be another day in court.
The alternative form of handling divorce can be done by getting a marriage mediator. This person will remain neutral during the discussion between both sides and hopefully come to an amicable settlement that is favorable to the people involved.
The mediator does not have to be a lawyer. This person is simply a professional who does this for a living by listening to the couple.
There are a lot of individuals who have decided to do this as a practice because research shows that the judge will only make a decision in one out of ten cases. This happens because a court battle is expensive and a fair decision can only happen if it is settled out of court.
There are many benefits of hiring a mediator. The first is that the fees charged by these people are considered to be more affordable than hiring a lawyer.
Another benefit is privacy. When the person files divorce in court, it becomes a matter of public record. Anyone can walk into the federal building and get information to have it publicized.
The agreements made during mediation will only be known by the couple and the professional. No one else will know the details or have access to it including immediate family members that could turn this into gossip.
Mediation saves time. The couple can agree to go to an office and set the appointment. The people involved are the ones who will set the pace. This means the marriage can still be saved if both people want to have a second chance and work things out.
The courts are very different than mediation since the couple has to wait before a preliminary hearing can be scheduled before it can go forward. Since the federal court has other cases to deal with, the case of the spouses will just have to fall in line until a judge can act on it.
Mediation has also proven to improve communication between the two parties. If this done by lawyers, litigation has a lot of terms that makes the situation even worse.
Marriage is supposed to be about the couple. Since this is a domestic problem, those involved should be ones who should step up and voice the concerns.
The only time mediation ends is when the two people have signed on an agreement. Both parties have to comply and should there be any violations committed, this document can also be used in court and the judge will then make the proper verdict.
Divorce is ugly because it destroys families and ruins marriages. There are different ways to resolve this and it doesn’t always have to be done with a lawyer and going to court.
Those who want an amicable settlement should hire a mediator. This neutral person can look at the situation from the outside and help reach an agreement that is favorable to both parties.
The mediator can only do so much to resolve the crisis. The couple should work hard and agree to make compromises rather than spending a lot of money in court.
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