Feeling Jealous After a Breakup?
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
The day that the relationship ends is the end of something old and the beginning of something new. Both people may have agreed to it or one did and the other feels upset but that is the reality.
Weeks or maybe even months, there is a chance that the person will find out that the former lover is seeing someone new. The question then is should that individual feel jealous?
Most people who are in this situation do feel it. In fact, it is perfectly normal. The person can play many questions in the head wondering if this is for real or just a phase. What characteristics does this newcomer have that one did not possess?
The most common is feeling that the individual is better than the new one. The only right person is the one that partner decide to break up with.
Another reason why people feel this way is because the happiness that was once shared is gone and is with someone else. The worse is probably knowing that there were things that the lovers planned and never got to do and it’s being done with the newbie.
The lover wants the other person to suffer or feel sad and hopefully realize that breaking up was a mistake and its time to get back together again. The ending isn’t always a happy one and part of letting go is being happy for the former lover.
Moving on with one’s own life will be challenging. Perhaps the person is not ready yet which makes it advisable to take time to mourn and let go before deciding to meet and commit to someone new.
This can be done by first forgetting about the past, learning to forgive and be optimistic about the future.
The first thing to do will be to assess oneself. There were mistakes done in the past. It could bad habits or attitudes which changed the relationship from a happy one to the breakup. There is always room to improve and by doing some soul searching, the person can learn to mature and grow.
Another thing the person can do is talk to friends about the past and learn lessons from it. People are different. Perhaps the former lover wasn’t really the right partner to be with.
Given the free time, the person can try new things such as sports or working out that were not possible since most of the time was spent with the former lover. There are also classes and sessions that work on self-improvement which can give the individual a better understanding of life and relationships.
The person cannot control the mind of the former lover. The only thing that can be done in the present is to make changes in life and hope this will make the individual further improve in the future.
Some people see a breakup as the end of the world and that life has nothing better to offer the person. The reality is it has opened new doors. It can give the individual a new outlook in life and anticipate the blessings and gifts it has in store.
By working on things the person has inside and strengthening it, someone new will come along. This new partner could be the one true love. The individual that will change everything and make things better than before.
Life has a lot to offer and being jealous with a former lover is not the way to go. Doing that is just a way of clinging on to the past and hoping foolishly for things to go back to the way it was.
The person should just be happy that at a point in time, this former lover once shared a chapter in the individual’s life. This part of the story is over but what happens in the succeeding pages is something worth exploring with optimism.
Love, breakups and jealousy are just one of the many facts in life. The person can accept it, resent and regret that it ever happened or embrace reality for what it is and move on.
Life itself has more to offer and it all depends on the individual what to do it when a situation presents itself.
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