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DIVORCE RATES IN AMERICA

By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff

Ask anyone off the street and they will tell you that half the marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. This statistic was actually quoted about a decade ago and has stuck in everyone’s minds so much so that this is often quoted as the correct divorce statistic in America. The fact that it sounds so controversial is probably the reason why this statistic stuck.

The truth however is that there has been a slight down trend in the occurrences of divorce with in the past few years. So the correct statistic to cite nowadays is that marriages have a fifty-fifty percent chance of ending in divorce. Consequently, there is also a fifty-fifty percent chance that a marriage will not end in divorce.

A lot of people though would rather focus on the fact that most American marriages fail. Different people have different reasons for holding this half true statistic in their heart. A preacher may use it for shock value to scare his flock into repentance in the light of deplorable morals that divorce stands for in their congregation. A divorcee will also quote this statistic to rationalize his or her failed marriage. While a commitment phobic person may quote this statistic to rationalize his or her inability to stay in a committed relationship.

Whatever the reason, this statistic is really unimportant. There a host of other more important statistics out in the world that should be given more importance like the trend of climate change and how this will affect the globe or the instance of occurrences of aids in children. None of this however get the same amount of mass appeal that the American divorce statistic has.

It is important to note however that the fact that there are still divorces happening means that there are still a lot of people who actually get married. So not all marriages are the till death to them part kind. So what? The fact that divorce proceedings have become much easier over the years in America is a blessing not a curse.

Divorce is the much needed relief of married relationships that are no longer headed in the right direction. Divorce is a protection rather than an evil entity. Imagine yourself stuck in loveless marriage. The quality of life you live is dependent on the freedom one has and divorce affords that.

Perhaps that example sounds frivolous to some but divorce also protects people who have made mistakes and have found themselves in an abusive relationship. Divorce provides the legal exit to such nightmarish relationships.

Although a lot may argue that since divorce rates are so high then it is better not to get married at all. On the contrary, instances of marriage should increase because divorce is in place. It is a safe guard for married people who may in the course of their married life realize that they’re better off not married. But the divorce proceedings will make sure that all legalities such as child custody, child support and conjugal properties are properly accounted for.

It is also not true that since people can get divorced anyway, people shouldn’t get married. Married people enjoy a lot of legal benefits which is why a lot of gay sectors around the world are trying to get gay marriages passed into law in their countries. Divorce is then just a preventive measure for more chaos after a marriage fails.

Blaming decreasing levels of morality on divorce is backward. It is as logical as saying that a lot more people get sick because there are more doctors. Divorce is not the cause of failed marriages. The couple in the marriage are the main and sole cause of their marriage. Blaming divorce is simply externalizing blame where blame shouldn’t even be. Like anything in life, it has to predict the outcome of a marriage. Sometimes even if you’ve given it your all, there are still instances beyond one’s control that will occur and contribute to the end of a marriage. But the end of a marriage is not the end of life It is important to note that ending are also beginnings and divorce is just a way to facilitate a new beginning.