BEING DUMPED IS FREEDOM IN DISGUISE
By BreakUpAdviceOnline.com Staff
Have you been dumped lately? Being dumped is the twin of being rejected in a relationship where no words can describe the main thought of not only losing, but the feeling of a crashed ego. How are you going to handle being dumped?
The only thing that makes being it sad: it is a big blow to you while others continue living a normal activity. You are not supposed to be minding what happened, but it is consciously pointed to you like a sharp spear: “He dumped me!” You know that after a while it will ebb, but now, just like a wound, it is freshly torn in your emotion. In the onset of this situation, it seems that no amount of “counting of blessings” can pacify the mixed emotion that you are currently undergoing. How could anyone dump you while you have double degree in college? No second-class jealous colleague has taken your place in your career promotion. You have made the highest sale in the past five years. Many man have adored you before and you turned back on them just because of this man who had now placed you to the level of a trash.
The truth is, everything, if you will take notice…everything is but one big action of your thought. It is you who feel being dumped just because it was he who broke out the news of breakup. Lessen this feeling and it will be easier to handle being dumped.
Here are the points on how you can ease your mind “being dumped”:
CONSIDER IT A BLESSING IN DISGUISE:
It is better that you discourage yourself on every thought of him. Your mind will race to cast him off your mind if you dwell on thinking of his permanent traits that are quite discouraging to you. An example is a genetic defect. If he has specific health disorder running in his family, surely it is enough to turn you off into plunging a future with him. What a definite disadvantage to continue relating with this man who will only share you a part of his genetic defect! Imagine how it saved you of future anticipated marriage counseling if you are already married to him.
YOU PAID A HIGH PRICE FOR A GOLDEN LESSON:
That is the great thing about breakups, it is the time you reflect on your faults. Forgive yourself by thinking that in every mistake you make, you earn a lesson. The pain you are feeling is what you are paying as a result of your bad choice. You will learn how to improve your relating and realize that there are things that you have to cast away to avoid future odds.
FAILURE IS TEMPORARY
Everything you encounter in this world is a battlefield of struggle. No person has reached success in full appreciation and glory without experiencing and comparing to the great counterpart called failure. It is this failure that can make you stronger, just like any dose of antibiotic. It makes you more resistant to its heavier blow. To make or break a relationship is the real struggle of relating with someone. The only thing that is permanent is death, as long as there is life remaining within you have the chance to be happy. Time heals every wound, or you can find cure in every subtle way, you will heal with a very persistent unlearning.
LOVE IS LETTING GO
The sad thing is you really love him. You gave had given him all your heart that it seems nothing is left as contingency, just in case. Just remember that when you love someone, you are willing to give what he wants. It happens that all he wants is FREEDOM, even if it means your unhappiness. Grant it if you really love him. That is the most decent conclusion that you can make out of your love of him.
RISE FROM THAT “DUMPED” FEELING
When he dumped you, if you accept the idea that he had thrown you away, it only refers to the love he once felt for you. Who knows, he may still have some amount of love for you, except that he has to go on a life on his own. Other than that, you are still intact. You still have career, parents, friends, talents, and all the assets that you acquired for many years.
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